Alright everyone I got a situation, I seriously need help on. I need Vietnamese people especially to help me with this one. I'm in Love with this girl I have been dating for 2 years now. We haven't seen each other in over a year though. We met in college then started dating. we had the greatest time together in the time we were together. we always played games together, had dinner together, shopping together. we always know how to make each other happy.
Then after college graduation she had to go back to her home country of Vietnam cause her education visa was expiring. so as I am here she went back there and we kept in contact through skype,email, phone calls, instant messaging. then in the summer time last year I filed for fiancée Visa and just 2 weeks ago we got approved for her to come here after she takes the interview.
But a major problem has occurred. Her parents don't like me cause I'm American. a part to understand about this is that they are in their 60's and grew up with the Vietnam which began their hate for Americans. They feel I'm poor and I'm no good for their daughter. here comes another twist, as I have been waiting for her to get approved, I worked my butt off to save cash way. so I could get a place for me and her when she comes here.
but then an issue now that remains as an argument in ways between us is her parents. I understand their tradition and point of view in Vietnam. where I come to her house with her parents there and introduce myself and allow them to know me. Cause who would want to let their daughter go off with a stranger they don't know to another country. I don't know anyone who would allow that. I love and respect Asian culture, which makes this girl that I love so much change my life. if it wasn't for her I don't know what my life would be like.
Her parents want me to come there so I meet her parents and have a ceremony there, then come back to the U.S. with her to do our ceremony, then her parents want us to come back to Vietnam to live forever. But I don't want to do that. How can I convince her that she ain't leaving her parents behind, how could I convince her to say what she has to say to her parents to allow her to accept us for her to come here.
I would fly over there but I'm so unsure, because I don't want to spend over a grand in U.S. money to go there. the flight there is expensive. and if I spend the money to go there we will have almost nothing when we get back from Vietnam. and I want her to live here with me to have a family. Not to mention I get sickness when I travel and I'm afraid to travel alone since my family nor friends want to come over to Vietnam with me. What could I do? her parents stand in the way of Me and my girls chance to be happy together.
I love this girl and I want no other girl, This girl is my everything. she is my angel. She is the reason I strive so hard to meet goals as of the past 2 years. I work so hard to earn all the money i can for our future. I have a nice plan for us in the future, where are kids go to school, where the kids will be born, where we will have our wedding ceremony. I will teach her how to drive. I just don't want to loose her. my life will never be the same without her. Below is a video link of us happy as can be please check it out then comment with advice on what I can do.